Sometimes we struggle to belong.
“Look, ma, me too, I too don’t have enough, look at me not making ends meet. I am just like you. See?”
Fear of rejection or the need of being included, seen, not being marginalized, makes us become less than what we could be, because that comes with leaving them all behind.
Leaving your parents behind is the healthy choice, but you have to be healthy to make that choice. Mind, body, soul.
Leaving behind something or someone is not something bad, nor being left behind or rejected. It can feel that way when the neural links are twisted.
Sometimes we connect being safe with the dynamic of being rejected, and if that is connected with the idea of being home, growing up, then we subconsciously become less, to feel included, to feel safe. Same with money. If you didn’t have money growing up, you will fear money. Even if the home situation was bad, toxic.
It is not safe to not stay with your tribe.
How do we break this bond? Do we let it kill us? Do we try to remain “good kids” and not evolve, so we don’t make our parents feel stupid? Oh- don’t worry, they are not paying attention to you, they never did, if they were toxic.
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